Monday, March 29, 2010

A New Life's resolution - Day #66 (Spiritual) {written for 3/24/2010}

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Day #66 - Spiritual

According to www.definitionofwellness.com, "The spiritual dimension of wellness involves seeking meaning and purpose in human existence. It includes the development of a deep appreciation for the depth and expanse of life and natural forces that exist in the universe."

Unless you've been living under a rock, you've seen or heard quite a bit on the news lately about the passage of the 2010 Health Care Reform Bill. I haven't read the whole thing, so I'm not going to take up your time and attention talking about the changes that it will or will not make for your and your family. I'm also not going to go on about the misinformation being spread around in order to put fear or anger into the hearts of constituents.

Instead, this week I'd like to start all of you thinking and talking about how this bill could influence our dimensions of wellness. If you've been tuning in to this blog for any period of time, you've probably figured out that I like it when people are paying attention and finding a way to think about these sorts of things for themselves rather than simply regurgitating whatever they hear on the TV or radio. So I'm going to take it easy this week and simply put some questions or prompts out there. My hope is that this will spark some conversations here or in your office or around your kitchen table with the family.

*  How will this bill affect the spiritual wellness of the country?
*  If God has said we should care for our brothers, how does that affect our nation's decision to have or not have affordable health coverage for all citizens?
*  Are those people who choose to deny medical intervention in favor of asking God for healing exempt from the requirement to have coverage?  Should they be?
*  How have "conservative christian values" influence the coverages provided or not provided by this bill?
 
What other aspects of the health care bill have I missed as they pertain to our spiritual wellness?

I eagerly anticipate your thoughts about these things.

A New Life's resolution - Day #65 (Occupational) {written for 3/23/2010}

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Day #65 - Occupational

According to www.definitionofwellness.com, "The occupational dimension of wellness is involved in preparing for work in which one will gain personal satisfaction and find enrichment in one's life through work. Occupational development is related to one's attitude about one's work.' Traveling a path toward your occupational wellness, you'll contribute your unique gifts, skills and talents to work that is personally meaningful and rewarding. You'll convey your values through your involvement in both paid and unpaid volunteer activities that are gratifying for you. You'll know when you're on the correct path for career wellness, when your work and hobbies become exciting."
 
Unless you've been living under a rock, you've seen or heard quite a bit on the news lately about the passage of the 2010 Health Care Reform Bill. I haven't read the whole thing, so I'm not going to take up your time and attention talking about the changes that it will or will not make for your and your family. I'm also not going to go on about the misinformation being spread around in order to put fear or anger into the hearts of constituents.


Instead, this week I'd like to start all of you thinking and talking about how this bill could influence our dimensions of wellness. If you've been tuning in to this blog for any period of time, you've probably figured out that I like it when people are paying attention and finding a way to think about these sorts of things for themselves rather than simply regurgitating whatever they hear on the TV or radio. So I'm going to take it easy this week and simply put some questions or prompts out there. My hope is that this will spark some conversations here or in your office or around your kitchen table with the family.

*  How will this bill affect the occupational wellness of the country?
*  Have the steep costs of non-group health insurance kept some people from becoming entrepreneurs and starting small businesses?  If so, will the new access to affordable insurance enourage some people to finally take that step?
*  According to the bill, employers who have less than 50 employees do not get penalized for not providing insurance coverage.  How will that threshold affect businesses that have employee numbers around that range?
*  Whether it is true or not, I'm not sure, but it has been said that many family doctors and general practitioners are deciding to retire early rather than make the changes to their practices that this bill puts into effect.  If this is true, how could this affect the quantity and quality of doctors that are available?

What other aspects of the health care bill have I missed as they pertain to our occupational wellness?


I eagerly anticipate your thoughts about these things.

A New Life's resolution - Day #64 (Physical) {written for 3/22/2010}

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Day #64 - Physical

According to www.definitionofwellness.com, "The physical dimension of wellness encourages cardiovascular flexibility and strength and also encourages regular, physical activity. Physical development encourages knowledge about food and nutrition and discourages the use of tobacco, drugs and excessive alcohol consumption. Physical Wellness encourages consumption and activities which contribute to high level wellness, including medical self-care and appropriate use of the medical system.

Unless you've been living under a rock, you've seen or heard quite a bit on the news lately about the passage of the 2010 Health Care Reform Bill.  I haven't read the whole thing, so I'm not going to take up your time and attention talking about the changes that it will or will not make for your and your family.  I'm also not going to go on about the misinformation being spread around in order to put fear or anger into the hearts of constituents.

Instead, this week I'd like to start all of you thinking and talking about how this bill could influence our dimensions of wellness.  If you've been tuning in to this blog for any period of time, you've probably figured out that I like it when people are paying attention and finding a way to think about these sorts of things for themselves rather than simply regurgitating whatever they hear on the TV or radio.  So I'm going to take it easy this week and simply put some questions or prompts out there.  My hope is that this will spark some conversations here or in your office or around your kitchen table with the family.

*  How will this bill affect the physical wellness of the country?
*  Will the physical health of those who currently do not have access to affordable insurance be better as a result of having access to annual physical exams, eye doctors and dentists?
*  How can physical wellness be promoted to our children in a way that makes them see the benefits down the road?  Is that possible?
*  Is this a chicken and egg problem?  Have health care costs become astronomical because we only seek treatments for disease rather than regularly seeing doctors for preventative maintainence or do we delay treatment because of the costs of the health care?

What other aspects of the health care bill have I missed as they pertain to our physical wellness?

I eagerly anticipate your thoughts about these things.

Saturday, March 20, 2010

A New Life's resolution - Day #62 (Social)

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Day #62 - Social

According to www.definitionofwellness.com, "The social dimension of wellness encourages contributing to one's human and physical environment to the common welfare of one's community. Social Wellness emphasizes the interdependence with others and nature. It includes the pursuit of harmony in one's family. As you travel a wellness path, you'll become more aware of your importance in society as well as the impact you have on nature and your community. You'll take an active part in improving our world by encouraging a healthy living environment and initiating better communication with those around you. You'll actively seek ways to preserve the beauty and balance of nature along the pathway."
 
This week I've decided to do something a little different and totally steal an idea from a friend of mine that writes a blog called Your Pal, Jill. She is a wonderful writer that I went to college with. She's a huge fan of old-fashioned letter writing and all that that entails, so her blog is a series of letters to people/places/things she has messages for. Check her out because she's very witty!
 

The social letter goes to the founders of Creative Memories:

Dear Cheryl and Rhonda:
     I'm sure you won't remember me, but I was once one of your consultants.  From the late 90's until a few years into the new millenium, I told people about your products and mission for a profit.  Now I just do it for fun.  In the 12 years (!) since I was first introduced to your amazing company and their mission to help us preserve our memories, I have become a big fan and a constant evangelist for what you stand for.
     I have completed over 13 photo albums/scrapbooks of my life in that time. The photos and stories contained in them tell of Christmases and Easters, motorcycle adventures and trips with my girlfriends and family.  I was always a fan of photography, but you have made me into a historian of my life.  I can see the value in that now as the last decade has passed, but I'm sure as I grow older and people go out of my life, these albums will become priceless ties to all those I have loved and the life I have lived.
     While these albums and your company has been a joy to me on a personal level, more important are the times I've been able to spend with family and friends working on documenting our memories and making more in the process.  I've met new friends who I've grown to love.
     My most fond memories of these times spent over pictures and paper are those made with my mom every month.  Despite our busy lives, we've made a commitment to get together once a month for a whole weekend of "scrapbooking".  We laugh over silly pictures and stories.  We grow sad over loved ones we've lost.  We eat junk food and watch epic movies all day long as we write and cut and glue down not only photos of our lives, but the ties that bind us together as well.
     So thank you for the memories you've helped me make and preserve.

Creatively yours,
Heather

Friday, March 19, 2010

A New Life's resolution - Day #61 (Emotional)

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Day #61 - Emotional

According to www.definitionofwellness.com, "The emotional dimension of wellness emphasizes an awareness and acceptance of one's feelings. Emotional wellness includes the degree to which one feels positive and enthusiastic about oneself and life. It includes the capacity to manage one's feelings and related behaviors including the realistic assessment of one's limitations, development of autonomy, and ability to cope effectively with stress. The emotionally well person maintains satisfying relationships with others."
 

This week I've decided to do something a little different and totally steal an idea from a friend of mine that writes a blog called Your Pal, Jill. She is a wonderful writer that I went to college with. She's a huge fan of old-fashioned letter writing and all that that entails, so her blog is a series of letters to people/places/things she has messages for. Check her out because she's very witty!

The emotional letter goes to my psychologist:

Dear Dr.,
     Ah, the irony that I was just discussing with you that I was having writer's block about who to address my "emotional" letter to!  It should have been so obvious to me.  Perhaps it's because I often don't think of you as a person.  You are simply a means to an end in some ways.  For me you are a sounding board for all the anger, frustration, sadness and loss that I can't otherwise communicate to my loved ones; a light to illuminate what I should be able to see if I wasn't blind to some things; a rational voice to tell me that there are people out there who agree with my point of view or who are really "living" life in a way that I've never been shown.  There are no other relationships in my life where someone knows so much about me and I know so little about them.
     Over the past 5+ years, you have helped me mend my broken heart and broken mind with something more substantial than the band-aids of spending money and eating that I'd been using as remedies before.  You've helped me be aware and involved in my daily life.  It may sound weird, but in some ways, you have slowed time for me.  Before I started talking with you, life seemed like it was going 100 miles an hour out of control.  There were so many things that I "had" to get done and it felt like time was moving too quickly for me to even start on those tasks.  Time still seems to go quickly once in a while, but I think I've been able to truly appreciate more about life on a day to day basis rather than thinking 5 years ahead.  I'm able to enjoy myself more when I am spending time with family and friends, "indulging" in my hobbies or just laying on the couch with my puppy.  I am better able to discern the voices telling me I'm being lazy from the ones telling me that I am a good person and I deserve a rest.
     I still struggle with issues about my self-esteem, but I am learning to treat myself with the same kind heart and words that I try to treat other people with most of the time.  I'm trying to remember that although there will most likely always be people who are smarter or funnier or "better" than me, that doesn't mean I am not smart or funny or good.  I'm also beginning to realize that I don't have to be an expert, or really even good, at EVERYTHING I try.  We are each made up of different talents and influences.  There are things that we will succeed at doing and things we will fail at miserably.  That's a good thing.  After all, it's our differences that make us who we are.  The world would be awfully boring if it was otherwise.
     For all these things and many more that I'm sure are to be revealed in the days, weeks and years to come thank you doesn't seem nearly enough.

With all of my gratitude,
Heather

A New Life's resolution - Day #60 (Intellectual)

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Day #60 - Intellectual
 
According to www.definitionofwellness.com, "The intellectual dimension of wellness encourages creative, stimulating mental activities. An intellectually well person uses the resources available to expand one's knowledge in improved skills along with expanding potential for sharing with others. An intellectually well person uses the intellectual and cultural activities in the classroom and beyond the classroom combined with the human resources and learning resources available within the university community and the larger community."
 
This week I've decided to do something a little different and totally steal an idea from a friend of mine that writes a blog called Your Pal, Jill. She is a wonderful writer that I went to college with. She's a huge fan of old-fashioned letter writing and all that that entails, so her blog is a series of letters to people/places/things she has messages for. Check her out because she's very witty!

The intellectual letter goes to quite a few people because of the intellectual influences they've had on me.

Dear Intellectual Influences,
     First, Mr. A., my 8th-grade teacher.  Thank you for cultivating an interest in current events, which I still enjoy learning about and staying up on.  Thank you also for telling us that there is a whole, big world outside of Fort Wayne at a time in our lives when we were beginning to think we knew everything (teenagers can be like that).  At the time I didn't believe you, but you were definitely right.  I could spend a lifetime seeing other people and places and still not see it all.
     Next, Mr. L, my high school math teacher.  You really kicked my butt.  I went into your class(es) feeling like math was the easiest thing I'd ever done and I never had to study for it.  You definitely changed my mind.  You challenged me to really think critically about things and to really seek out solutions.  Your POWs (Problems of the Week) were real killers, but I had such a sense of satisfaction when I actually began to be able to complete them.  Before your classes, math was boring, after....well, I'm an actuary, so you add it up!
     Finally, third is Troy.  I may never be able to put into words all the ways you have influenced me intellectually.  You've taught me how to have a political debate, how to research and remember details and facts.  You've shown me how things, people, events that I never thought had anything to do with one another are clearly related.  Dating you has turned me into someone who used to think with a "checkers" mind, but now thinks with a "chess" mind.  I'm better able to analyze and strategize in any given situation and I'm able to learn about myself and others through our daily interactions because I am truly paying attention.  Most of the time, anyway.  For those things, I will be eternally grateful.

With all my gratitude,
Heather

A New Life's resolution - Day #59 (Spiritual)

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Day #59 - Spiritual

According to http://www.definitionofwellness.com/, "The spiritual dimension of wellness involves seeking meaning and purpose in human existence. It includes the development of a deep appreciation for the depth and expanse of life and natural forces that exist in the universe."

This week I've decided to do something a little different and totally steal an idea from a friend of mine that writes a blog called Your Pal, Jill. She is a wonderful writer that I went to college with. She's a huge fan of old-fashioned letter writing and all that that entails, so her blog is a series of letters to people/places/things she has messages for. Check her out because she's very witty!


The spiritual letter goes to God.

Dear God, Heavenly Father, Yahweh, Jehovah,
     You have so many names, I hardly know what to call you most of the time.  Although I'm told you know me intimately (down to the number of hairs on my head) and yet, sometimes I feel as though we've never met. I am often lonely and unsure of what I should be doing with my life.  I try to be still and listen for any messages you have for me, but all too often it feels like you aren't speaking to me.  Perhaps you are and I'm just not able to understand you.  If that's the case, you know my limitations and I hope you would find a way to communicate that you know I will understand.
     I know that it is not possible for me to know your mind, but I'm very confused about who you are exactly.  I am told you are loving God and yet I've also been made VERY aware that if I step a foot out of line, I will be severely punished.  Yet these same rules don't seem to apply to other people.
     There have been times in my life when I have been nearly inconsolable with grief because someone I loved was "taken home" to you.  At those times I wanted to yell and scream and demand an explanation from you.  But the fear of your retribution keeps me from doing that.  Even writing this letter makes me feel as though I'm opening myself up for years of punishment for being "cheeky" and "talking back."
     How is possible for us to have the close relationship I'm told you long for with all of your children if I have to keep these things to myself?  In my relationships with people here on Earth, I've found those times when we disagree or argue or have to confront one another are the times that our bonds are made the strongest.  Those trials and tribulations require an honesty and forthrightness that I don't feel I'm able to let myself have with you.
    This weekend I will go to your house and I hope that I will find you there.  I want us to be able to meet in the solitude of prayer and the fellowship of singing and through those things truly become a Father and daughter.

With all that I am,
Heather 

Tuesday, March 16, 2010

A New Life's resolution - Day #58 (Occupational)

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Day #58 - Occupational

According to http://www.definitionofwellness.com/, "The occupational dimension of wellness is involved in preparing for work in which one will gain personal satisfaction and find enrichment in one's life through work. Occupational development is related to one's attitude about one's work.' Traveling a path toward your occupational wellness, you'll contribute your unique gifts, skills and talents to work that is personally meaningful and rewarding. You'll convey your values through your involvement in both paid and unpaid volunteer activities that are gratifying for you. You'll know when you're on the correct path for career wellness, when your work and hobbies become exciting."

This week I've decided to do something a little different and totally steal an idea from a friend of mine that writes a blog called Your Pal, Jill. She is a wonderful writer that I went to college with. She's a huge fan of old-fashioned letter writing and all that that entails, so her blog is a series of letters to people/places/things she has messages for. Check her out because she's very witty!


The occupational letter goes to my job as an actuary.

Dear Actuary Gig,
     I'm writing you today to make a confesssion.  This isn't easy to say, but I feel it must.  Sometimes I think you don't really "get" me and we often have disagreements about where we will be in the future.  As a result, over the last decade or so, I've found myself in the loving arms of other (part-time) gigs.
    With you, I've experienced much joy over the years.  Remember all of those difficult benefit calculations and annual valuations we struggled through together?  Those long, worrisome days spent hunched over actuarial tables hold some of my fondest memories because I know we both came out on the other side stronger and better compensated.  We've shared early morning study time and late night study time.  We've seen generous raises and perform reviews together.  We've shared concern over the future of pension actuaries and where we might end up.  Through these triumphs and troubles, we've grown.
     But there has to be more.  With photography, I travel.  With crochet, I create and warm those around me.  Even writing, my old college nemesis, has shown me adventure and success in ways I never imagined it could.  Actuary Gig, I know you're a good provider, but if we can't succeed together in our exams, I fear we will have to reevaluate things between us.
     I share these thoughts with you not to hurt you, but so that we may work on our problems before it becomes too late to salvage our relationship.
     I eagerly anticipate your response in the days to come.

Your economic servant,
Heather

Monday, March 15, 2010

A New Life's resolution - Day #57 (Physical)

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Day #57 - Physical
 
According to www.definitionofwellness.com, "The physical dimension of wellness encourages cardiovascular flexibility and strength and also encourages regular, physical activity. Physical development encourages knowledge about food and nutrition and discourages the use of tobacco, drugs and excessive alcohol consumption. Physical Wellness encourages consumption and activities which contribute to high level wellness, including medical self-care and appropriate use of the medical system.
 
This week I've decided to do something a little different and totally steal an idea from a friend of mine that writes a blog called Your Pal, Jill.  She is a wonderful writer that I went to college with.  She's a huge fan of old-fashioned letter writing and all that that entails, so her blog is a series of letters to people/places/things she has messages for.  Check her out because she's very witty!
 
My first letter recipent this week will be my body, the center of my physical wellness.
 
Dear Body,
     Let me first start off by saying "thank you".  Despite my repeated criticisms of you, (things like how you love to hang onto every last calorie I give you in case we're ever in a famine situation and how you seem to be wrinkling in all the wrong places and don't get me started again on those grey hairs you've been pushing out of my head for the last decade!) you constantly bounce back!  When I crashed my motorcycle a few years ago and broke my arm and the doctor told me that I'd be as good as new in less than 6 months, I didn't believe him.  But you did it!  You healed beautifully and only remind me of how I did you wrong once in a while when the weather gets bad.  Even though I rarely give you enough rest and the fuel I feed you with is sometimes lacking, every day you rise and shine and still perform nearly every task I ask of you.
     I know that there are other people who are mean to you and don't appreciate you for the amazing structure that you are.  I'm sorry that I sometimes join with them in putting you down rather than sticking up for you.  I promise to try to do better about that.
     I also promise to take you out more often.  I know that you love it when we get out and walk the dog around the block or go to the gym and test you.  I know that you love it because you respond like a champ.  You get stronger and more energetic and can hardly wait for more.  I'll try to remember that the next time I want to keep you inside on the couch on a nice day.
     I hope that with the exception of those drastic measures I had to take a couple of years ago, we are both in this for the long haul.  Since that's the case, I say we make a pact.  I will feed you better, take you out more often and let you rest more if you will just keep being the amazing edifice you've always secretly been.
                                     With all my devotion and affection,
                                                        Heather

Saturday, March 13, 2010

A New Life's resolution - Day #55 (Social)

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Day #55 - Social

According to www.definitionofwellness.com, "The social dimension of wellness encourages contributing to one's human and physical environment to the common welfare of one's community. Social Wellness emphasizes the interdependence with others and nature. It includes the pursuit of harmony in one's family. As you travel a wellness path, you'll become more aware of your importance in society as well as the impact you have on nature and your community. You'll take an active part in improving our world by encouraging a healthy living environment and initiating better communication with those around you. You'll actively seek ways to preserve the beauty and balance of nature along the pathway."

There have been more times in my life that I have been socially unhealthy than I would like to remember. 

When I was in college and moved from dorm life to living off-campus, I desperately missed the friendships that were so easily started and maintained in the dorms.  It was routine to leave your room door open and people would just pop by to chat as they walked down the hall.  Living in a townhouse off-campus definitely didn't lend itself to those sorts of interactions anymore.

After college, I moved to Indianapolis where I didn't know a soul and spent many a lonely weekend holed up in my apartment before I found new friends and activities to fill my social calendar.

For me, the path to social wellness is, once again, in reaching a state of balance.  I definitely need other people in my life, but I also need some "alone" time to recharge.  After a day of working and playing with other people, it's nice to have some time to veg in front of the TV or dig into a good book all by myself.  On the other hand, after a day spent in grungy clothes cleaning my house by myself, getting dressed up and going out for dinner and drinks with friends is just what the doctor ordered.

The other thing that I consider when trying to get myself socially healthy is what my soul needs from social interactions at the time.  Let me explain.  I am blessed to be friends or acquaintances with a wide variety of people.  There are SAHMs, single working women, poker buddies, motorcycling chums, fellow actuaries and, of course, my family.  When choosing who to spend time with, I often think of them in terms of food (perhaps this may be part of my weight issue....hmmmm) and what I need at the moment to nourish my soul.  For example, some friends are a big slice of chocolate cake.  They are fun and indulgent in all the right ways.  Other friends are more like a chicken breast and vegetables.  They may appear plain to others, but the time I spend with them makes me stronger and healthier.  Then there are my "chips and dip" friends.  They are spicy and tangy and just what I need when I want to be adventurous.

Friday, March 12, 2010

A New Life's resolution - Day #54 (Emotional)

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Day #54 - Emotional
 
According to www.definitionofwellness.com, "The emotional dimension of wellness emphasizes an awareness and acceptance of one's feelings. Emotional wellness includes the degree to which one feels positive and enthusiastic about oneself and life. It includes the capacity to manage one's feelings and related behaviors including the realistic assessment of one's limitations, development of autonomy, and ability to cope effectively with stress. The emotionally well person maintains satisfying relationships with others."
 
I may not often feel Intellectually ill, but sometimes I am the poster child for emotional illness.  ....wait....that didn't come out right.... 
 
Anyway....  Next to trying to find physical wellness, struggling for emotional wellness has been one of my hardest tasks.  I think I was always a bit of a melancholy child and I was told I was "too sensitive" from the time I emerged from the womb, I swear!  For some reason I have this deep abiding need for other people to "get" me.  I want them to understand why I'm angry or frustrated.  I need them to be excited when something excites me because it's the "coolest thing I've ever seen!"  When they don't, (which is inevitable, really) I take it as a personal affront.
 
When you combine this desperate need to be understood with my desire to be empathetic to those around me, you have one heck of an emotional rollercoaster ride!
 
So, what do I reach for most often when I'm feeling down?  First, these amazing little white pills called Bupropion (marketed as Wellbutrin).  They are an antidepressant and they are seriously a blessing.
 

This is the point where my mother's voice enters my head telling me not to tell everyone that I'm medicated.  She's of the generation that thinks the stigma involved with admitting you need chemical assistance or that you see a psychologist is to be avoided at all costs even if taking said meds and seeing said doc is one of the best things you've ever done.  Believe me when I say the decision to take an antidepressant was not one I made without a serious amount of soul-searching and research into alternatives.  Despite my doctor's suggestion of it, it took me well over a year to take the plunge because I thought that needed it meant I was weak or that I was one step from being checked into an asylum.  I thought that I just needed to pep talk myself into feeling better (even though I'd tried to do that unsuccessfully for years) or that I just had to "decide" to be happy.  Admitting that my depression was actually something caused by a chemical imbalance in my body rather than a character flaw freed me up to get the help that I desperately needed.
 
With the help of that little pill, the thought of walking out into the world each morning is much less daunting!
 

Second, there is something incredibly soothing about the cute fuzzy muzzle of my little Sasha puppy.  If I'm feeling sad or lonely a few licks from her and the world is a brighter place.  If you have a pet, you know what I'm talking about.  If you don't you MUST go and get yourself one of these precious bundles of love.  They don't care if you didn't wash your hair that day or if you're wearing your fat pants.  All they know is playing and sleeping and loving you unconditionally.  If that doesn't cure what ails you, I don't know what will.

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Thursday, March 11, 2010

A New Life's resolution - Day #53 (Intellectual)

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Day #53 - Intellectual

According to www.definitionofwellness.com, "The intellectual dimension of wellness encourages creative, stimulating mental activities. An intellectually well person uses the resources available to expand one's knowledge in improved skills along with expanding potential for sharing with others. An intellectually well person uses the intellectual and cultural activities in the classroom and beyond the classroom combined with the human resources and learning resources available within the university community and the larger community."

This week, we've been discussing how I find health when I'm feeling illness in a certain dimension of wellness.

I must admit that, for me, the area of Intellectual wellness may be my Achilles' Heel.  During my life I have most definitely gotten the most positive feedback and attention because of my intellect and I have to say I've bought into it.  Unfortunately I may have bought into it so much that I've become an intellectual snob.

I'm not proud to admit it, but there are times when I regard people with some disdain if I think they aren't intellectually involved in what's going on around them or curious about what makes the world work the way it does.  When I called my parents during the presidential debates in 2008 and they weren't watching them, I wanted to reach through the phone and throttle them.  When I went on a trip with some friends to Dallas and they wanted to go shopping rather than learn about the Kennedy assassination, to say I was extremely disappointed is putting it mildly.

Like I said, these may not be some of my finer characteristics, but they are all part of me none the less.

So, whether it's because I've deluded myself into thinking I'm smarter than I am or simply because my intellectual self-esteem is healthy, I am happy to say that I don't often feel intellectually ill.

The downside to that is when I do, my ego takes a massive hit and I can be down for the count.  Luckily it's nothing that a good dose of Jeopardy! can't cure.

Wednesday, March 10, 2010

A New Life's resolution - Day #52 (Spiritual)

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Day #52 - Spiritual

According to www.definitionofwellness.com, "The spiritual dimension of wellness involves seeking meaning and purpose in human existence. It includes the development of a deep appreciation for the depth and expanse of life and natural forces that exist in the universe."

The Spiritual dimension of wellness may be the hardest one for me to keep myself "healthy" in.  Finding the things that make me spiritually healthy is something that seems like it's been a life-long pursuit.
 
Growing up in the Lutheran church, I think I was all about being the "good girl".  That translated into always being able to say the things the teachers and pastors were looking for.  I was a whiz at memorizing bible verses and I've heard my share of stories from the bible.  But for me, that's the problem.  They were only words to be memorized and stories to hear.  They never went any deeper than that.  Perhaps it was because asking questions was not encouraged or because of the hypocracy I saw in the (mostly) adults around me.  They would say/do one thing on Sunday and most often act a completely different way the rest of the week.  That just didn't add up in my mind.
 
Even now, many of my friends on Facebook routinely thank God for blessings in their lives.  Seldom do they ever rail against Him because they are in pain or have experienced a loss.  The relationship with God has always seemed very one-sided for me.  I am to do what I am told and be a good girl.  Thank him for the things I receive, but never am I allowed to "talk back".  Rarely do I feel like I get a response from Him.
 
 
So, how do I find spiritual healing and peace?  Most of the time I think I'm sort of eastern in my beliefs.  I believe in kharma and that I may not always get what I want, but if I send out good thoughts/actions into the universe, I will receive blessings in return.  I also believe in being genuine (in a caring way, hopefully) with the people I come in contact with.  If I feel that I've been injured, I try to get that off of my chest with the assailant.  If I have been unkind to someone, I try to express my sorrow and ask for forgiveness.  If I care for someone, I tell them.  After all, we don't know how many days we have with them.  I don't profess to be 100% proficient at any of these things, but I try to stay mindful most of the time and often I am rewarded.  In fact, recently I had two former classmates tell me how much they enjoyed reading my blog and that I have been a help to them.  This was a huge spiritual boost for me when I needed it most.  (Little did they know.)
 

The other thing that I sometimes long for when I'm feeling spiritually down are those deja vu moments.  It may sound silly, but for me, those times when I feel like I've been somewhere or seen something before feel like signposts from God.  It's like he has a plan for my life and a path he wants me to follow.  When I experience those signposts, it feels like I'm heading in the right direction.

Tuesday, March 9, 2010

A New Life's resolution - Day #51 (Occupational)

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Day #51 - Occupational

According to www.definitionofwellness.com, "The occupational dimension of wellness is involved in preparing for work in which one will gain personal satisfaction and find enrichment in one's life through work. Occupational development is related to one's attitude about one's work.' Traveling a path toward your occupational wellness, you'll contribute your unique gifts, skills and talents to work that is personally meaningful and rewarding. You'll convey your values through your involvement in both paid and unpaid volunteer activities that are gratifying for you. You'll know when you're on the correct path for career wellness, when your work and hobbies become exciting."

..Continuing our discussion on what we look for to bring us comfort and health when we're ill in any dimension of our welness.....


When it comes to occupational illness, I have definitely had my down days.  As I've said before, I'm an actuary and in order to become a full-fledged Fellow in the Society of Actuaries, there are a series of exams that need to be passed (think the CPA exam or the Bar exam, only there are 10 of them!)  I have yet to pass them all.....and I'm old.  Okay, I know I'm not really old, but to STILL be studying for exams, I'm old!  Many of the people in my office passed them all before they were 30.  I have 4 of them right now.  That's not so bad, but it's a long way from being done and I am really tired of thinking about them.

When you're surrounded by people who have had success in an area where you have failed a few times, it's easy to get wrapped up in the mindset that you're not good enough.  More than once, this thinking has really gotten me down on myself.

So, what do I do to make myself occupationally healthy again?  I guess I try to get some perspective and remember that I need balance in my life.  For many of the people that I work with, they have concentrated solely on studying for and passing these exams.  They have put off buying homes, having families, finding other interests.  That's great if that's what works for them.  Unfortunately, I know myself enough to know that's not what works for me.  I had a semester in high school where I didn't have any math classes.  I basically finished all of the math classes provided by my high school by my junior year.  So, the first semester of my senior year, I had a study hall instead of a math class.  I was pretty sure I would lose my mind.  There's something about how I'm wired that I need to be doing something mathematical and/or logical on a daily basis.

On the other hand, as you might be able to tell from my list, I feel like life is short and I want to experience as much of it as possible.  That means delving into all of my creative interests, desires to visit new places and need for some (motorcycle) speed.  If I didn't feed those needs in me, I would die a little and, consequently, not be honoring the authentic me.

So, when I'm bothered by not passing those professional exams more quickly, I remember that I used that study time to take an amazing motorcycle vacation or scrapbook for a day with my mom or spend some quality time with "my girls".  That's when I remember that my paycheck may not be bigger, but my soul is overflowing.

Monday, March 8, 2010

A New Life's resolution - Day #50 (Physical)

If you're just joining us, check out the explanation of my "New Life Resolution"

Day #50 - Physical

According to www.definitionofwellness.com, "The physical dimension of wellness encourages cardiovascular flexibility and strength and also encourages regular, physical activity. Physical development encourages knowledge about food and nutrition and discourages the use of tobacco, drugs and excessive alcohol consumption. Physical Wellness encourages consumption and activities which contribute to high level wellness, including medical self-care and appropriate use of the medical system.

{sigh}

Alas, the 2010 Winter Olympics are over and I have spent the last 7 days sick.  I was so sick that I didn't even go to work 2 out of the 5 days last week.  I spent this weekend sitting on my couch, napping under a blanket and watching too much programming on The History Channel.  This was all while my dog and one of my cats vied for my attention.  The dog wanted to go play outside (she got her way via the dog park) and the cat wanted to be petted while the dog was outside.  I finally broke down and went to the CVS Minute Clinic for a diagnosis and some relief.  The verdict?  Sinusitis which turned into Bronchitis.  Lovely.

All of this illness has reminded me that I take my health for granted and made me think of what it takes to be healthy.  So this week I thought it might be a good idea to spend more time delving into that topic.  When we are experiencing dis-ease in one of our dimensions of wellness, what are the things that we seek out to ease our discomfort?

Finding a cure for what ails us Physically may sometimes be one of the easiest for us to tackle.  When I was little and skinned my knee or cut myself, a band-aid and a "kiss to make it all better" would often do the trick.  If I woke up in the middle of the night with a stomach ache or a need to (ahem) evacuate my stomach contents (to put it delicately), my mom would always hold my hair back and laying on the cool bathroom floor always helped.  As I grew older, I had my fair share of headaches.  I learned that "toughing it out" was so not necessary when I could simply go to the medicine cabinet for a few tablets of instant relief.

This week as I hacked and coughed my way through each day, it was the simple things that I yearned for:  my fuzzy pajama pants (sexy, no.  comfy, yes!), a fluffy pillow under my head and a blanket covering me as I lay on the couch with the TV remote control in hand, a cup of soup, a peanut butter and jelly sandwich and hours stretching out in front of me with nowhere to go and nothing to do but nap whenever the desire hit me.

I think I hear the couch calling my name now.

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